Are your Results Balanced?
This question is asking you:
Are you mastering the ability to have regular DTRs (define-the-relationship meetings) to ensure that your expectations for the relationship are becoming more Balanced with each other’s over time?
As time goes by are you discovering more about the Cause of your Specific Person? Is he discovering more about your Cause? Are you both working to reconcile your different values, beliefs, and ideas into a unified Cause?
Are you developing the ability to meet your Specific Person’s needs over time?
Is your Specific Person developing the ability to meet your needs over time?
Are you tracking the needs you have of each other in this relationship and how each of you is meeting them for one another?
Are you tracking your Effects? Are you identifying and persevering in the Balanced Processes that return Balanced Effects? Are you identifying and reconciling the Imbalanced Processes that return Imbalanced Effects?
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Are your expectations for the relationship becoming more Imbalanced over time despite your regular DTRs?
If any of the following statements true for you, then your relationship is Imbalanced.
The more I discover about my Specific Person’s Cause, the more I realize how incompatible we are.
Neither of us is willing to change our values, beliefs, and ideas for the other’s and we can’t find any middle ground.
Over time I have been less able to meet my Specific Person’s needs.
Meeting my Specific Person's needs conflicts with my Cause – values, beliefs, and ideas.
What my Specific Person expects me to do for him is a violation of my relationship with my Cause.
My Specific Person has what he is calling “needs” but what he is asking me for is inappropriate according to my Cause.
My Specific Person is getting his needs met in other relationships and wants me to meet them as well, which is in conflict with what I believe to be the purpose of this relationship.
My Specific Person is getting his needs met in other relationships so he doesn't care much about ours anymore.
As I’ve continuously tried to develop the ability to meet his needs, he has continuously not tried to develop the ability to meet mine.
Tracking our needs being met in DTRs just sends one or both of us into an Imbalanced Process.
My Specific Person is becoming increasingly unwilling or unable to meet my needs even though I'm meeting his and I'm experiencing increasing Imbalanced Effects over time.
Both of us are becoming increasingly unwilling or unable to meet each other’s needs over time and we are both experiencing increasing Reciprocal Imbalanced Effects over time. We basically hate each other’s guts.
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This question is asking you:
Are you mastering the ability to have regular DTRs (define-the-relationship meetings) to ensure that your expectations for the relationship are becoming more Balanced with each other’s over time?
As time goes by are you discovering more about the Cause of your Specific Person? Is he discovering more about your Cause? Are you both working to reconcile your different values, beliefs, and ideas into a unified Cause?
Are you developing the ability to meet your Specific Person’s needs over time?
Is your Specific Person developing the ability to meet your needs over time?
Are you tracking the needs you have of each other in this relationship and how each of you is meeting them for one another?
Are you tracking your Effects? Are you identifying and persevering in the Balanced Processes that return Balanced Effects? Are you identifying and reconciling the Imbalanced Processes that return Imbalanced Effects?
OR
Are your expectations for the relationship becoming more Imbalanced over time despite your regular DTRs?
If any of the following statements true for you, then your relationship is Imbalanced.
The more I discover about my Specific Person’s Cause, the more I realize how incompatible we are.
Neither of us is willing to change our values, beliefs, and ideas for the other’s and we can’t find any middle ground.
Over time I have been less able to meet my Specific Person’s needs.
Meeting my Specific Person's needs conflicts with my Cause – values, beliefs, and ideas.
What my Specific Person expects me to do for him is a violation of my relationship with my Cause.
My Specific Person has what he is calling “needs” but what he is asking me for is inappropriate according to my Cause.
My Specific Person is getting his needs met in other relationships and wants me to meet them as well, which is in conflict with what I believe to be the purpose of this relationship.
My Specific Person is getting his needs met in other relationships so he doesn't care much about ours anymore.
As I’ve continuously tried to develop the ability to meet his needs, he has continuously not tried to develop the ability to meet mine.
Tracking our needs being met in DTRs just sends one or both of us into an Imbalanced Process.
My Specific Person is becoming increasingly unwilling or unable to meet my needs even though I'm meeting his and I'm experiencing increasing Imbalanced Effects over time.
Both of us are becoming increasingly unwilling or unable to meet each other’s needs over time and we are both experiencing increasing Reciprocal Imbalanced Effects over time. We basically hate each other’s guts.
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