The Servant Initiative

The Servant Initiative is a question-based program intended to assist you in developing compatible relationships with the people in your life. It is like a choose-your-own-adventure book on steroids.

The Servant Resources
The Servant has its own vocabulary so we don’t have any language misinterpretation problems. I have noticed that most of us develop different denotations and connotations to words. I’ve chosen words that will probably initially mean something else to you. I just scoot right around that rode block by defining the words to make sure we’re all on the same page. I’m asking you to take the time to understand the meaning I’m assigning to them. Here's what we got on the first level:

Desire – core need, goal, expectation, hope, purpose, destination

Cause – a person you’re following, looking to please, patterning your Desire Obtainment Process after; This is a person who guides you, supports you in some way, and evaluates you throughout your journey to developing the resources you need to obtain your Desire. This person can be male of female but for simplicity’s sake I use the male pronouns when referencing him. When we’re talking about the people in the relationship you’re patterning yours after, I’ve been using the plural (Causes, they, them, etc.). We all have multiple Causes. The important thing in Desire Obtainment and the development of Compatible Relationships is that we’re choosing Causes that don’t conflict with one another.

Process – the journey you’re taking to obtain your Desire; the rules and laws you’re obeying to achieve your goal; the day to day choices you’re making in regards to the use of your time and energy to use and develop your resources; the way in which you interact and communicate with the people around you, especially those with whom you have a relationship in order to maintain or develop Compatibility.

Effect – When they are Desirable Effects - the attraction you experience towards your Specific Person* and your Cause when you engage in your Process; the gratitude and admiration you experience upon evaluating a specific person’s Process; the Joy and satisfaction you experience when interacting and communicating with a specific person; the confidence and self-respect (self-esteem, value) you experience because of a Compatible Relationship; the safety and comfort you experience because of a Compatible Relationship. 
When they are Undesirable Effects – the repulsion you experience towards your Specific Person and/or your Cause when you engage in your Process; the pride or envy you experience upon evaluating a specific person’s Process; the Sorrow and dissatisfaction you experience when interacting and communicating with your Specific Person; the toxic shame or blame you experience because of an Incompatible Relationship; the insecurity and discomfort you experience because of an Incompatible Relationship.

*When I refer to the other person in your relationship, I will either use "your Specific Person" or the male pronouns for simplicity’s sake even though your relationship may be with a female. Make the switch in your mind and in your notebook if it is the opposite.

Result – a description of the present condition of your relationship; while tracking Results is a Process, I address that Process in the Result; you track the condition of your relationship over time by evaluating the variables that are the most important to you; one variable I suggest tracking is the Effect and how it changes over time; other variables can be tracked such as specific spiritual and physical abilities, talents, skills, resources, attributes, and character traits.

In the Servant I have organized the Resources I have been taught to use when working through Undesirable Effects (fear, depression, boredom, apathy, anxiety, confusion, conflict, sorrow, anger, loneliness, pain, numbness, doubt, pride, envy, guilt, toxic shame or blame) in each of my relationships into a story-in-reverse. Instead of me tell you my story about my relationships, I'm asking you to tell yours. For example, one of the most important Resources I was taught was to identify what choices I was responsible for making and what consequences were subsequently dependent upon the choices that I made. So in regards to your relationship story, you are asked questions in which you have to make a choice. Here is a sampling of the first level questions:

What is your Desire?
It is important to understand that it is your responsibility choose your Desire and describe it in as much detail as you can. 

Who is your Cause?
It is important to identify who your Cause is, especially if you are unconscious to this choice that you have been making, and to understand that if this relationship is not enabling you to obtain your Desire it is your responsibility to seek out and develop a relationship with a Cause whom is able to assist you to obtain it.

What is your Process?
It is important for you to identify your present Process as well as seek to identify the Process you need to engage in to obtain your Desire. These may be different. Identifying any discrepancy between them is your responsibility. Doing so enables you to change a meandering course to one that is more purposeful, leading you more directly to the obtainment of your Desire. It is equally important to understand that your Cause should be exemplifying the Process as well as training you in developing your abilities to engage in it consistently and supporting both members of your relationship throughout the developmental period.

What are the Effects you experience?
It is important that you understand that the Effects you experience are directly tied to your Process. When you have identified your true Desire and are engaged in the inherent Process to obtain it, you will experience desirable Effects. When you’re chasing after a Desire that isn’t what you really want and will never bring you satisfaction or you’re engaged in a Process that is leading you off the pathway to obtaining your true Desire, you will experience undesirable Effects.

What are your Results?
It is important to evaluate your Results to determine if you are obtaining your Desire or not, given your choice of Cause, consistent Process, and changes in Desirable vs. Undesirable Effects. Evaluating the Effects you experience is a subjective measurement that is also objective. It is subjective in that only you can determine if you are satisfied with the level of Joy, Attraction, Compatibility, and Satisfaction in the relationship. It is objective in that you can’t will yourself to be happy, attracted to your Specific Person, compatible with, or satisfied with the relationship unless you have chosen a true Desire and are consistently engaging in the inherent Process to obtain it. Faking it gets you nowhere. Taking pills for it only numbs you to Undesirable Effects, blocking your motivation to resolve the real conflict, which will never go away on its own or with meds like a cold or a headache would.
There are also many other Results you can evaluate. These are the more specific things about your relationship that bug you or that you would like to change in order to develop the level of Compatibility and Satisfaction that you desire. They are the most important variables to you. These are things about yourself and your Specific Person that can be changed and/or developed over time, given your choice of Causes and your Specific Person’s choice of Causes (which may very likely be conflicting) and your diligence in the developmental Process.

The Servant Initiative is flexible and dynamic according to your choices.
You are asked questions. You choose the relationship you want to work on. You decide on the Cause who would be most suitable to guide and support you through the developmental period. You identify the Effects you experience and determine if you are satisfied with your relationship or not. You identify the most important variables in your relationship that need to be changed or strengthened. You choose how much time you want to spend on it and how deep you want to go with it. You choose if you want to (or can) answer the questions right now or if you need to take a few days to evaluate your thoughts and feelings in order to connect up with your most honest answer. You can work on it a few minutes at a time or a few hours. When you are satisfied with your Results, that’s when you’re good to go. There is no reason to progress past that point.

Qualifications
How long have I been working to develop this program? 
13 years.

How frequently have I worked on the Servant throughout those years? 
For the majority of those years I have worked on it as much as and more than a full time job. There have been some brief periods where it has been my part time job or I have put it aside to test out other pathways, which ended up being a deviance from my true Desire.

What is my true Desire?
To finish this thing in order to share the treasures of knowledge that I’ve been taught, which have freed me from the spiritual prison I was in (Undesirable Effects) and have enabled me to satisfactorily progress towards the obtainment of my Desires in my relationships: Spirit/Body, Marriage, Parent/Child, and Community. To clarify, what I’m attempting to accomplish with the Servant is to pass on the tools I was given that freed me from the Undesirable-Effects-prison and have enabled me to experience sustainable Joy, Attraction, and Satisfaction even as I continue to journey to my desired destination. It’s important to note that my life – my developmental journey – is not without Undesirable Effects. But when I do experience them, I am aware that they are the merciful guidance of my Cause communicating to me that I am getting off track and need to center back up. 

I am still working on building the website. I change it often. Eventually it will be what I envision it to be. So if you want to deal with my share-while-I-figure-this-whole-thing-out process, go ahead and start now but if not, come back at the end of April, 2019 (that's a guesstimate).

Who has been my Cause? 
Jesus Christ.

Who is the Servant for?
It is for anyone who is trapped in Undesirable Effects (fear, depression, boredom, apathy, anxiety, confusion, conflict, sorrow, anger, loneliness, pain, numbness, doubt, pride, envy, toxic shame or blame) and can’t get out on their own. It is for those who can’t afford to go to a counselor or who have been, are still in the trap, and don’t want to take meds to resolve the problem. It is for those who desire to develop more Compatible Relationships with God and their spouse, parents, siblings, friends, children, body, or community.

How is the Servant similar to other programs or services offered in the community?
It is similar to going to a counselor, life coach, therapy, or employee relations specialist. The Servant would be similar to specialized areas of counseling in parenting, marriage, health and fitness, and in making a valuable contribution to community through life work and career.

How is the Servant different from other programs or services offered in the community?
It is different because I’m not charging any fees for my services. It has only cost me my time and energy (spiritual and physical blood and sweat) to be trained in these things and it will cost you the same. Because I don’t have the joint motive to be financially supported by you, my only desire is to assist you. Thirteen years ago when I saw this thing coming I chose and committed to God not to do it for money but only for him and for those who are now as I was. My pay - my recompense – has and will continue to come from him so if you find this program useful to you, it is him you can thank. He’s footing the bill.

It’s also different because I don’t hear all of your private business. That stays between you and God in your notebook. He can handle it. I may not be able to. I’m giving you the questions but you are answering to God. It’s important to make your notebook time your prayer time and to be looking for his responses in everything you read, watch, hear, see, and sense. He wants to know what you desire. He wants to know who you will choose to pattern your life after. He is there to direct you to the right Causes for you and to answer any of your questions that your Causes can’t. He wants you to acknowledge your Process and seek to know the inherent one. He wants to know if you’re satisfied with the Effects you experience. Even he, being omniscient, can’t tell you that. That’s why he gave you agency. You need to tell him. He wants to know that you’re evaluating your Results and the changes in them so you can retain your motivation to persevere or be apprised of the need to tweak something. 

As you go through this program, you will be developing your communication relationship with him, not me. He has many scribes. I am one of them.

If you are a non-believer in God or you believe in him but don’t believe in his active role in our lives right here and right now, I dare you to give this a try to test out if he is indeed there, ready and willing to be apart of your journey right here, right now.


What do I mean by notebook?
It is important to find a quiet, private place and plenty of time to ponder on your answers. I strongly recommend writing down your answers to each question in a notebook or journal. We refer back to your answers later.

START NOW: Select the Desire tab in the top menu if you're on a computer. If you're on a smartphone or tablet* the menus display differently than if you're on a computer. 

*When I access it from my iPhone, it has all the tabs in the top menu. The top drop down menu represents Level 1, the second, Level 2, etc. I'm not sure why they are presently all titled "Home" but when I figure it out, it will hopefully have each level labeled correctly. For now just know the levels are ordered from top to bottom. 

In the navigational directions, I will put directions for those on smartphones or tablets in (parentheses) next to the directions for those using a computer.

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