Who is your Specific Person & Who are you?
For the following research, do Name of your Specific Person through Diagram on your own, then do the Expanded Description together. Remember to write everything down in your notebook.
Name of your Specific Person
Write down the name of the Specific Person with whom you desire to develop this relationship in one column and write your own name down in another. If willing, your Specific Person should do the same on his own.
Synonyms
Think of all the Specific Desires this person counts on you to meet. List them in the column under his name. Do the same for yourself.
Short Definition
Give a short definition of this person. Given the list of his Specific Desires, how would you summarize his beliefs on the purpose for this relationship? Do the same for yourself.
Diagram
Create a diagram of your specific relationship with this person based on your beliefs for the purpose of the relationship. Is your Desired Relationship for both of you still at Point B or do you need to divide that point into two separate points given your research?
Expanded Description
Now you can ask each other questions and share with each other the notes you took for the previous prompts. Ask your Specific Person about the Specific Desires he depends on you to meet. Go where you want with this discussion. My suggestion is to maintain an attitude of respect for one another. If you can't, end the conversation until both of you have had some time to reconsider and recommit to treating each other with respect.
When you're finished interviewing each other write an expanded description of who this person's view of the purpose of your relationship, using quotes, references, images, metaphors, and links from your study. Do the same for your point of view.
What IS the Purpose of this kind of relationship?
This next bit of research is to study the general purpose of a relationship like this one. The pattern is similar to the research you just did. If you can do this together, do it.
Name
The first step you have already done in Level 1: name the specific relationship you are evaluating. Is it a friendship or a marriage? Is it a relationship between a parent and a child? Is it a business relationship or a teacher/student relationship? Decide what kind of relationship it is and name it.
Synonyms
The next step is to look up synonyms for this name.
Short Definition
Look up the definitions of your synonyms and write one that makes the most sense to you. I like to merge a few definitions into one. Make sure the definition includes why this relationship is valuable to people in general.
Diagram
Create a diagram that illustrates this kind of relationship and its purpose. What are the main goals - what are people in a relationship like this trying to achieve together? For example, if you are evaluating a parent/child relationship create a diagram with points labeled Parent, Child, Goal. Name the main goals of the relationship. You can add some details but try to keep it simple.
Expanded Description
Find and study articles and books that have been written about this specific relationship. Talk to some people who are on the same team as your Cause, listen to some music, view some art, and ponder on some metaphors for it. Recall what you have already read, seen and heard. Take notes on what you find or have found as well as the thoughts that come to your mind.
Write an expanded description of the purpose for this kind relationship, using quotes, references, images and diagrams, metaphors, and links from your studies. You can make this as long or as short as you want. Just make sure you are satisfied with what you (and your Specific Person if willing to participate) believe the purpose of this kind of relationship should be. E.g. What is the purpose of marriage? What is the purpose of a family? What is the purpose of the business/customer relationship?
Back to Question: Select Level 2 Desire from the menu to the right (top - second).
For the following research, do Name of your Specific Person through Diagram on your own, then do the Expanded Description together. Remember to write everything down in your notebook.
Name of your Specific Person
Write down the name of the Specific Person with whom you desire to develop this relationship in one column and write your own name down in another. If willing, your Specific Person should do the same on his own.
Synonyms
Think of all the Specific Desires this person counts on you to meet. List them in the column under his name. Do the same for yourself.
Short Definition
Give a short definition of this person. Given the list of his Specific Desires, how would you summarize his beliefs on the purpose for this relationship? Do the same for yourself.
Diagram
Create a diagram of your specific relationship with this person based on your beliefs for the purpose of the relationship. Is your Desired Relationship for both of you still at Point B or do you need to divide that point into two separate points given your research?
Expanded Description
Now you can ask each other questions and share with each other the notes you took for the previous prompts. Ask your Specific Person about the Specific Desires he depends on you to meet. Go where you want with this discussion. My suggestion is to maintain an attitude of respect for one another. If you can't, end the conversation until both of you have had some time to reconsider and recommit to treating each other with respect.
When you're finished interviewing each other write an expanded description of who this person's view of the purpose of your relationship, using quotes, references, images, metaphors, and links from your study. Do the same for your point of view.
What IS the Purpose of this kind of relationship?
This next bit of research is to study the general purpose of a relationship like this one. The pattern is similar to the research you just did. If you can do this together, do it.
Name
The first step you have already done in Level 1: name the specific relationship you are evaluating. Is it a friendship or a marriage? Is it a relationship between a parent and a child? Is it a business relationship or a teacher/student relationship? Decide what kind of relationship it is and name it.
Synonyms
The next step is to look up synonyms for this name.
Short Definition
Look up the definitions of your synonyms and write one that makes the most sense to you. I like to merge a few definitions into one. Make sure the definition includes why this relationship is valuable to people in general.
Diagram
Create a diagram that illustrates this kind of relationship and its purpose. What are the main goals - what are people in a relationship like this trying to achieve together? For example, if you are evaluating a parent/child relationship create a diagram with points labeled Parent, Child, Goal. Name the main goals of the relationship. You can add some details but try to keep it simple.
Expanded Description
Find and study articles and books that have been written about this specific relationship. Talk to some people who are on the same team as your Cause, listen to some music, view some art, and ponder on some metaphors for it. Recall what you have already read, seen and heard. Take notes on what you find or have found as well as the thoughts that come to your mind.
Write an expanded description of the purpose for this kind relationship, using quotes, references, images and diagrams, metaphors, and links from your studies. You can make this as long or as short as you want. Just make sure you are satisfied with what you (and your Specific Person if willing to participate) believe the purpose of this kind of relationship should be. E.g. What is the purpose of marriage? What is the purpose of a family? What is the purpose of the business/customer relationship?
Back to Question: Select Level 2 Desire from the menu to the right (top - second).
