Are your Results Balanced or Imbalanced?
I have written my answer to this question in my Notebook and am ready to move on to the Next Question.
Select Level 4 Desire from the right (top - fourth) menu.
Look back at your answer to the Balanced Desire question. What Resources did you say you desired to develop in your relationship? Which ones did you say you desired your Specific Person to develop?
Are the Resources you’re developing meeting his needs? Are you developing strengths which result in you’re ability to meet his needs better? Are you both working together to increase your level of knowledge, experience, and understanding? Are you both developing higher level characteristics or attributes over time resulting in a greater degree of compatibility?
Are the Desired Effects in the relationship increasing over time in Intensity? Are they increasing in Sustainability?
Are the Resources you’re developing meeting someone else’s needs but not your Specific Person’s? Are you developing strengths which result in you’re not needing him as much as before? Are you developing a higher level of knowledge, experience, and understanding while he remains at the same level? Are your characteristics or attributes changing over time resulting in an incompatibility with his?
Are the abilities, skills, or talents your Specific Person is developing meeting someone else’s needs but not yours? Is he developing strengths which result in his not needing you as much as before? Is he developing a higher level of knowledge, experience, and understanding while you remain at the same level? Is his characteristics or attributes changing over time resulting in an incompatibility with yours?
Are you continuously developing your Resources to meet your Specific Person’s needs but he is not developing his to meet yours or vice versa?
Are the Undesired Effects in the relationship increasing over time in Intensity? Are they increasing in toxicity?
Are the Resources you’re developing meeting his needs? Are you developing strengths which result in you’re ability to meet his needs better? Are you both working together to increase your level of knowledge, experience, and understanding? Are you both developing higher level characteristics or attributes over time resulting in a greater degree of compatibility?
Are the Desired Effects in the relationship increasing over time in Intensity? Are they increasing in Sustainability?
Are the Resources you’re developing meeting someone else’s needs but not your Specific Person’s? Are you developing strengths which result in you’re not needing him as much as before? Are you developing a higher level of knowledge, experience, and understanding while he remains at the same level? Are your characteristics or attributes changing over time resulting in an incompatibility with his?
Are the abilities, skills, or talents your Specific Person is developing meeting someone else’s needs but not yours? Is he developing strengths which result in his not needing you as much as before? Is he developing a higher level of knowledge, experience, and understanding while you remain at the same level? Is his characteristics or attributes changing over time resulting in an incompatibility with yours?
Are you continuously developing your Resources to meet your Specific Person’s needs but he is not developing his to meet yours or vice versa?
Are the Undesired Effects in the relationship increasing over time in Intensity? Are they increasing in toxicity?
I have written my answer to this question in my Notebook and am ready to move on to the Next Question.
Select Level 4 Desire from the right (top - fourth) menu.
