Introduction

Life is a series of desire obtainment and conflict resolution processes. At any given time, we are working toward achieving a goal or resolving a conflict. This process can get pretty frustrating. The Servant is a question-based program that has been designed to help you identify your desires, mentors, and the journey to obtain those desires by becoming more conversant with your most important sources of validation and assessing the most accurate measures of success.

Most of us love to read stories or watch them in movies. Within a story there is a main character that has a specific desire to obtain, which is usually identified in the very beginning. The entire story is about how she obtains that desire through the help of other story characters and the resolution of a variety of conflicts. You are the main character of your own story. You also have desires you want to obtain and conflicts that need to be resolved.

Within your story, you have certain choices that need to be made. You create certain pathways and boundaries, given your choices. The Servant program illuminates what those choices, pathways, and boundaries are. As the main character of your story, you need to be able to answer the following questions:

What is your Desire?

Who is your Cause—role model, mentor, provider, trainer, evaluator?

What is the Process to obtain your Desire?

What Effects—feedback, validation—are you receiving from your Cause when you engage in this Process?

What are your Results? Are you tracking your most accurate measures of success?

At first glance, it may seem like it is easy to answer these questions. But there are so many variables that enter into your story, which create conflict for you. You may have conflicting Desires, Causes, Processes, and Effects. It’s possible that you’re tracking Results that are not as accurate as others. You may not know what your Desire is. You may not yet have developed a relationship of admiration and trust with a Cause. You may not know how to obtain your Desire, how to navigate the plethora of Effects you’re experiencing, or how to track your Results. 

The Servant program helps you work through these common problems using 7 levels of progressive questions. The first level asks you to answer the above questions. Do your best to answer them. I strongly recommend writing your answers down in a notebook.

After you have answered them, you can move on to the second level, which focuses on identifying and defining your priorities. You start by recognizing your most General Desire and differentiating this from your more Specific Desires. 

The third level focuses on balancing your Specific Desire with your General using a compass. When your Specific Desire is balanced with your General, it is a North Desire and returns joy in the obtainment journey. When it is imbalanced, you experience a greater degree of sorrow in the obtainment journey. Your Desire can be imbalanced to the Northwest (way over your head) or to the Northeast (below your capacity). You will experience stress and fear in the obtainment process if you have a Northwest Desire and boredom and depression if you have a Northeast Desire. It's important to center up your Specific Desire with your General so that you actually enjoy your journey and thereby have the ability to endure through the challenging times until you obtain your desired Results.

The fourth level asks you to differentiate between your Spiritual and Physical Desires and then evaluate how to balance these two types of Desires, which are often the main source of story Conflict. 

The fifth level explores your choices between the Commitments you have already made and your new Desire.

The sixth level addresses the age-old concept of MORALITY--the way in which we go about obtaining our Desires and resolving our Conflicts. These questions help center you up in the threshold between Survival of the Fittest Desire Obtainment Processes and extreme Asceticism. When we have Desires, we may put them first above everyone else's Desires. Our only goal may be to obtain what we want even if the opportunity cost is preventing others from obtaining what they want. This is a Survival of the Fittest Desire Obtainment Process. On the other hand, we may ignore our most core Desires completely and believe we can do without and still obtain a sustainable way to voluntarily sacrifice. We may reject the sacrifices others have already made for us. This is an Ascetic Desire Obtainment Process. Focusing on helping others obtain their Desires while our Causes help us obtain ours is what I call a Paradoxical Desire Obtainment Process. We voluntarily put our own Desires aside in order to help others obtain theirs first. I make a statement in Level 6 that the most sustainable way to obtain our Desires and resolve our Conflicts Paradoxically is to accept the Atonement of Jesus Christ and all those Specific Causes who have taken his name upon them, who have already put their own Desires aside in order to help us obtain ours first.

The seventh level asks you questions about your Past. It invites you to remember a Desire you have already obtained and to recall how you resolved Past Conflicts in order to achieve that Desire. You are prompted to compare and contrast your Past Story with your Present, which often helps resolve many of the Conflicts we have in our Present Desire Obtainment Process.

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